# PART III: YOU 7. WHO ARE YOU? In answer to the age-old existential question: who am I, and who can I become, you are the forms of thought and meaning-making lenses that you use. As in Ubuntu, you are because of other people; optimised for your past, not for your future. Your biggest challenges are adaptive, not technical, meaning you need to change who you are to rise to them. Changing who you are begins with understanding how you deceive yourself, and why this is humanity’s superpower. You can change yourself, primarily through real experiences, not analysis. 8. YOU ARE YOUR STORIES Your meaning-making stories generate your experienced reality from a limited slice of what actually is. Your stories lie in a self-consistent category, or stage of meaning-making; they form frames of reference that you use to evaluate and judge what is happening, giving it meaning. Using the Ground Pattern you can grow bigger meaning-making stories, so that you can rise to your adaptive challenges. 9. YOU ARE YOUR THOUGHTS Your thought forms come first, lenses you see actuality through, before your meaning-making stories even generate your experienced reality. Once you have mastered binary logical thinking you have the foundations for the 28 post-logical thought forms, or lenses, of the next stage: Process, Context, Relationship and Transformation thought forms. The more fluidity you have in these, the better you grasp actuality and can make your reality a good model of it. 10. YOU ARE YOUR NATURE Your hard-wired nature is the basis for your thoughts and meaning-making. Increase your subtlety working with, not against your nature: your personal energy economy, needs, feelings (vs. judgements dressed up as feelings), your cognitive biases, and your relationship with money and power. 11. YOU ARE ONE Who are you? Are you big enough? Understand why most self-help approaches don’t work, or can even cause harm; and similarly for type indicators, declarations etc. Grow your subtlety in what you accept, what you rebel against, and how to be yourself with others. Expand your complexity of thought and meaning-making stages, so that you are satisfied at the end when you measure your own life.